Next, I allowed spirit to guide me as to where the trans-dermal magnesium should be applied (on her heart? her third eye?). As I’ve said, magnesium operates like a biochemical paddle that literally jumpstarts the electromagnetic circuits in our cells, brains and heart.
I received the message that she needed to have the magnesium applied to her throat, heart, and third eye. As for her throat, I felt there was something clogged there. (I found out soon that she was choking on her words). Then, we all waited a short while to allow the magnesium to absorb. As the magnesium began to work its magic, I began to see Jane’s internal chemistry switching from overdrive to peace, reversing the HPA-axis dysfunction that results from relationship trauma, conflict and fighting. I asked how she felt. She said she felt clearer and my voice sounded clearer.
Then I sensed that she needed to put the cream on her liver because her liver is clogged with anger. I saw her best friend nodding, confirming this was true. When Jane put the cream on her liver, she said she felt like something was opening. We began with an energetic dialogue with her husband. She asked, "Why do you always talk over me and shut me down?" I told her to reframe her statement so that she’s empowered. Don’t ask him why, which sounds like a pleading girl. Tell him directly what he does and how she feels.
She said she's afraid to be a bitch. I said bottling up what you need to say will make you become a bitch. Just say it now. So, she spoke her feelings straight up. She voiced her anger at him. I asked the group if she seemed like a bitch. Everyone said no. Then, her friend said, "I know your story. What is so bad about being thought of as a bitch?"
Jane said she was afraid to speak up because her father always called outspoken women bitches.
I said, “You've married your Dad. You bite your tongue with your husband the way you bit your tongue with your father.” I went on, “We need to heal the wound with dad in order to free you to speak with your husband.” Next, we dialogued with her father--now in spirit. I asked her to come up with a memory in which Dad shut her down, and she bit her tongue rather than speaking up to him. She remembered taking off on her bike. When she was 5 miles away from home, the cops picked her up. When she was returned home, Dad said she was a disappointment. I felt a stabbing pain in my heart and asked her if she felt pain in her heart. She said yes. She's since carried the fear of being her free, outspoken self for her entire life for fear of being shamed. I said, "Now you need to speak up and tell your dad how his shaming you made you feel." She started to cry and told him.
I said, "What do you hear your dad saying in response?"
I had her speak her dad's words. (This is an essential aspect of healing through the Trans-Dimensional Grief Resolution Method. You must speak aloud both your words and the words of the person with whom you dialogue.) He said, "I never meant to hurt you. I was worried about you." Jane wept, and said, “For the first time, I understand. I don't feel shamed anymore.”
When she came out of the dialogue, I asked her how she felt. She said, "Free, light, liberated. I never knew he didn't mean to shame me." I said, “You were too young to speak to him when the event happened. It never got healed. Now, it’s time to speak up to your husband and heal the relationship with him.” She then realized that--just like her father--her husband is afraid of her flying free and leaving him. And, we did a role play exercise that was part of the healing process.
When I arrived back home, I received the following letter from Jane:
“Our meeting and healing sessions were transformational. I feel so blessed and grateful for the wisdom teaching that I was skillfully guided to receive by yourself.