A high evolutionary level of intimacy is when we support each other to become the fullest expressions of that which we are meant to be—the wild female and the wild male. Healthy intimate relationship helps us become the original expression of whom we are meant to be. We, as partners, have the choice and ability to give space and support to the other to become their full, original, authentic self.
This is very different from the typical kind of relationship, in which we try to tame the other person into our idea of who he or she should be for us. In intimacy, our role is to help the other reach their full depth as a human being. Sacred relationship involves invoking the presence of the Divine into the relationship in an alchemical merging into the ONE.
The definition of intimacy is exercising the strength and maturity to maintain an open heart in love with the other over duration of time. It is more than a special moment in time; it is a commitment to creating a continual flow of the erotic, ecstatic experience of the Divine in every moment. It is a commitment to be continually present as love for your sacred partner. It is very personal and a tremendous, fearless, irreversible leap into the unknown.
No Return
Jumping off the sacred mountain of love
Burning in my heart
Into the great mystical unknown
Of sacred love, intimacy, and relationship
Of passionate radiant enduring love
Cannot be reversed
It is forever.
That is what makes it sacred
At the deepest level.
As we passionately plummet
Into sacred intimacy and love
Beyond time and space
Into the cosmic oneness and love
Beyond understanding, logic and the mind
Into the eternal presence of the ONE
In intimacy we have two essences that must be balanced. The female essence, which can be in a male or a female person, is the Rainbow Radiance of who we are—the full flow and dance of Love. It wants to shine, to be seen and needs to be recognized and to be known. The female essence is the flower and the joy of fullness. The male essence, which can also be in a male or a female person, is to die into the unknown—a total focus on oneness, dissolving into the Nothing. The male essence is about emptiness and the female essence is about fullness. These need to harmonically balance for a relationship to reach its highest octave.
Think of these two essences as a battery with sparks, a polarity that brings the electricity of eros to the relationship. If you don’t have that ark of energy between the two poles, it is hard to have a deep relationship. The female essence is everything that changes: light, colors, sound, feelings, and flow—the flow of the universe. The male essence is the part that never changes. It is the witness.