PERFECT MATE REPORT for Sheila
Points of Importance, Attention and Consequence
You quickly step in when others are having difficulty in protecting themselves verbally. Once you find out the Truth, you can deal with the consequences. If your partner is not upfront with you, it leaves you stressed until you have all the facts. Saying too much too soon about yourself can be disturbing to a potential partner. Listening may not be easy but it will get you results. Your need to not talk needs to be known to your partner. You can be tactless and not even realize that you have insulted someone. You were just attempting to be helpful. You can put all the pieces together quickly even before your partner knows what the relationship is headed for.
You often put your partner first, which can lead to feelings of unfulfillment. Stories of love and affection inspire you to create loving scenarios. Expressions of endearment are a way to your heart. You use words to express the depth of your feelings. You like to have a hand in what is going to happen next. You can be sensual without being obvious.
Getting pushed around is not caring, it is servitude to someone else's ego. You can be pushed but only so far. Stand up for what you want. The demands on your life do not leave enough time for a thoroughly satisfying love life. Make it a priority to attempt to consider how your actions influence others. You tend to try to support a weak relationship in the hope of promoting change when you should just bow out gracefully. It is a struggle sometimes to decide what you really think and what part belongs to your partner because you are so empathetic. Letting your partner know your expectations is important. If they will not listen, dump 'em.
Points of Communication, Complications and Complaints
You can be very convincing that you love them both. You have a fertile imagination that keeps personal activities lively. Using verbal distraction comes naturally to you. You trust quickly which causes a deep feeling of betrayal when you are disappointed. It is hard for you to allow your partner to have secrets. You have the ability to plan and foresee the reactions of your advances. You are generous with your time, affection, and property, but you do not like to be taken from on any level.
You let your partner take the lead because it is easier than arguing. Remember that whoever cares the least controls the relationship. Your spiritual side may be neglected because of the responsibilities you have accepted; sometimes not so willingly. Taking time for yourself is not to be seen as something that neglects those you care about. You put it where you wanted it. Those close to you need to leave your stuff alone. Your partner needs to understand your ability to significantly ignore what needs to be done.